Third (or is it fourth?) time lucky? Try not to panic, Dr. V, and let it stand.
Not much good, Kurt, restating your accusation in a locked thread. No, I didn’t ask if you were a pornographer. For the record, in my first email I specifically described what I was being told about you as “an absurd conspiracy” “which I told him was ridiculous”. It was quite clear I didn’t believe that part for a moment, and in no way was I accusing you. It was the rest, on which there was still a sneaking doubt, that I needed a categorical denial on – so that I could carry on busting a gut, as I had already been doing for several very unpleasant days, to defend the person being accused. I couldn’t ask that person, I couldn’t be sure one way or the other from the ‘proof’ I was shown, and you were the only person I knew who could at least deny (if not confirm) the accusations.
I have noticed before that you don’t always read very carefully, which can lead to misunderstandings - and has done before, even with you. As you say, you skim: on this occasion with disastrous results.
I also specifically asked you to keep what I wrote confidential, as I was worried about the consequences if it got out. That was reprehensible as well as careless. Not to mention unkind and unnecessary. Sometimes I think I’m the only person in this whole sorry saga who can keep confidences, and who has proved it over and over again, even when I could clear my name at a stroke if I was prepared to break them.
Why I was bothering to defend that person, heaven only knows, given all the circumstances. But I don’t like to see anyone maliciously attacked. Even if it had been true, and they had been astonishingly, unbelievably (see that?) stupid and reckless, I couldn’t stand by and let their life be deliberately ruined without doing what little I could to try to prevent it. I know better than to expect gratitude, but it’s sad that a good deed only produces yet another smear.
It’s only because it comes on top of all the other smears that anyone could think for a moment that I’d do such a thing. But that’s how it works, and has worked all along in whole story. Do you get it now?
How about a retraction? Are you still one of the good guys, or not? I would like to think so. Or will you allow this latest false accusation to feed into the perceived ‘wisdom’ about me, like all the rest, from people who clearly aren’t?