coldharvest wrote:Fansy wrote:i'm also the only BFCer (as i recall) that every 6 months or so posts something from his lovelife
You're the only one who feels he needs to...
this is tautological since youve undoubtedly ascribed to me this need to share my love life based on your observing my actual sharing of it. i'd counter that i dont feel i need to share it but instead i offer these gifts voluntarily and without stipulation. i recognize that most of you could benefit from hearing both my wisdom and folly. plus youre all just a miserable bunch of stick-in-the-muds and so id like to see you shitbirds improve your acts and lives.
Try not to treat them like they're another species and do shit with them that you'd do anyway.
this is not an example of the interaction bout which i desired to know - sounds like youre giving me advice on how to achieve this putatively possible state of interaction. but i mean i dont think it exists anyways and even if it did before i sought it out i'd like to review a scenario which might portray the behaviors/thoughts/relationship in play from both sides.
and regardin doin things i mean they dont like watchin my porn i swear nor reading journal articles on the same stuff i like to and no one likes my tastes/methods of film watchin. and theyre illogical, mean and they smell. thats all besides the point since i still cant even imagine a scenario with relevant boy-girl relationship where someone is not using the other, consciously, accidentally, or subconsciously, (but specifically the female using the male)
also - stop spending time with married/taken, self-destructive loser types that reinforce your negative preconceptions.
same issue from above applies; no one is describing what happens in non-using relationships or how the people in it might interact, but instead youre suggesting ways i could allegedly attain such a relationship (which i fear are really just ways to attain a mindset wherein youve suppressed recognition of how youre using and being used). ill play along tho if only cause i realize that a relationship not based on self-interests prolly doesnt exist and if it does is prolly extremely hard to describe sufficiently (if only because almost no one knows what its like).
In re loser types:
1) maybe i spend time with these types because thats all i can get
2) maybe i spend time with these types because thats all i deserve
3) maybe they spend time with me because they cant get better
4) maybe they spend time with me because they dont deserve better
In re winner types:
1) maybe i dont spend time with these types because i cant get them
2) maybe i dont spend time with these types because i dont deserve them
3) maybe they dont spend time with me because they can get better
4) maybe they dont spend time with me because they deserve better
as a matter of practicality, i assert the truth of all 'deserve' statements above. the 'can' statements are of less knowable truth, but in a state of uncertainty (such as being unable to know for sure if one can get a better mate or not), I'd argue that action-inducing judgments emanate from deserve statements. that is, the objective potential of what one can get isnt really as important as normative value judgments regardin what one feels like he/she should get; and as long as i and others operate with these beliefs about what we deserve (which then inform our actions/decisions), im pretty sure im gonna be stuck with 'loser' types (and theyre gonna be stuck with me) for the duration if you know wut im sayin.
for the record tho i dont think theyre losers. to label or demean vulnerable others in such a way is your prerogative, of course, but i suggest you acknowledge and reform that unfair, judgmental, and ultimately 'loser' quality of your own behavior too.
plus 'loser' women complain less and put out more. which really are the most important things if all youre needin is to satisfy basic evolutionary urges every once in a while. which i think we all agree consists chiefly of vicious blowjobs and anal