by DawnC71 » Fri Aug 13, 2004 10:01 pm
No Promises=NoApologies=No Regrets.
Dont commit to anyone unless you are totally and completely paralyzed by love, and I dont know anyone who can claim to have experinced love that deeply before.
I dont make any promises anymore to anyone because they are a pile a BullShite, and, it seems that as soon as you make a promise with the any of the folowing words: "Forever, Always, Neeverending, Eternal, etc"...[b]Once I use these types of infinite ideas to express or accentuate a [b]finite wish for the future[/b], THEN I HAVE ALREADY PLACED AT THE BASE, OR FOUNDATION, OF MY RELATIONSHIP, A BIG, FAT, APE-SHIT, SMELLING LIE..and with this kind of disastrous start to a relationship, from the beginning based on a promise that is completely impossible for me (or any other human being) to Fulfill, it erodes the what little trust me and my COMPLETELY HYPOTHETICAL Husband/Boyfriend may have had and once that trust begins to erode, it is quite difficult to reestablish it. I know I am going to die sometime or the Hubby or Boyfriend is going got die someday as well...or one of us is going to move or embark upon a totally new and different path in life which we may not be meant to follow. The Husband/Boyfriend may even cheat on me if he feels trapped in the relationship; so I have to work very hard to make sure the OTHER person knows that I really do not want any committments..It is difficult but not impossible..You can tell people all this but they are still going to be a little leery, especiallly people in their early thirties like Myself...By this age/time, most of us have already hurt someone and most of us have already been hurt by someone else. Hopefully it should have taught us that this is not the correct way to behave with others; nor, is the wisest use of our time in such a short life.
Ideas like "Forever" and "Eternity" have nothing to do with the finite human being..we die or we move in to a different path in life while our partner maybe taking some totally different route. My sole object in life and, especially in the the realm of intimate interpersonal relationships is this: If I find someone I enjoy spending time with, then all I really wanna do is spend our time together and have as much fun as humanly possible...Laugh play etc... until it is time for them to go, or time for me to go, whichever is first. This kind of negates any need for cheating, at least in my still semi-immature, and really, not all that knowledgeable opinion. But I just want to be able to enjoy my time with whomever I am fortunate enough to get to spend it.
Passion is necessity. It is not diligence, or simply being committed to a goal. Passion consumes you while you chase down your goal. Passion should always be your natural state of mind for it is what sparks momentum and sets the pace.