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how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby Fansy » Sat May 02, 2009 6:29 pm

cuz shes on to me
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby coldharvest » Sat May 02, 2009 6:46 pm

Fansy wrote:cuz shes on to me

then she's obviously clever
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby Kurt » Sat May 02, 2009 6:51 pm

coldharvest wrote:
Fansy wrote:cuz shes on to me

then she's obviously clever


Exactly.

Confess that you were not really into her mind but since she caught onto you..You now have two aspects of her personality that you cannot stop thinking about.

If she is really bright then she will catch onto that as well and then you probably post here about how she dumped you in the way that smart people dump others (by luring them off a cliff)
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby Dr. V » Sat May 02, 2009 7:21 pm

she's either.....

a ) hoping to educate you

b) is getting off on some kind of superior I'm clever than you' kind of gig

c) enjoying being valued for her body as opposed to mind

d) is using you


b and c mean you have a limited shelf life before she gets bored of you - unless you are very very good in bed in which case you are move into category d and will be used / are being used as a sex toy.

Category A means she is a bit weird and you should dump her.

oh and in answer to the original query - you can make her think you are interested in her mind by listening to her drone on about her specialist subject at length and pretend to be interested.....
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Postby el3so » Sat May 02, 2009 8:25 pm

vlindsay wrote: listening to her drone on about her specialist subject at length and pretend to be interested...

So what vlindsay is suggesting is you ask her "how she feels" about a book, movie, whatever. Don't forget to nod empathetically every couple of minutes, yadda, yadda... Basically the same routine you (should) have been using for parents, teachers, coppers and employers the last 25 or so years of your life.

Smart chicks are different however. Vlindsay should know...

The key IMO is to occasionally offer a dissenting opinion which will end up in her (probably you too, Fansy, you pansy ;-) ) using emotional rather than logical arguments. This is a good thing. Remember, most people only start to yell if the matter affects them personally.
Now here is the truely tricky part: the result should always be a statement about how you (a) hadn't as of yet seen things in that/her light (b) will keep it in mind for the future and (c) feel good that the two of you are having those kinds of heart-to-heart talks.
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby Ultra Swain » Sun May 03, 2009 1:59 am

Isn't there a men's cosmo for hugely gay questions like this?
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby Kurt » Sun May 03, 2009 3:28 pm

That is the thing. Young dudes always assume that because a girl lets them do thing to her that they are somehow clever and have amazingly conned some girl into getting naked and having a dudes sweaty, pimply body heaving over them for 2 1/2 minutes.

But women ....get this....actually ENJOY that sort of thing and hope to work on extending the time doing it to at least three minutes. A few years after adolecense dudes still kind of have a loathing about their body and themselves because they cannot figure out why anyone on earth would want to fuck them (gay men often do not have this hang-up) so when they get a girl to go to bed with them they look on the event like the time they faked a sick note from their parents in high school.

Fun times Fansy. Enjoy them. But you might not want to let your penis do the typing since girls who are not as dumb as you thought they were can find a guy's online activity pretty quickly.
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby Fenrisco » Mon May 04, 2009 2:41 am

Kurt wrote:let your penis do the typing


Ah, the "hunt and pecker" method, also known as "keybagging".
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby swordpoint9 » Mon May 04, 2009 8:05 am

Just enjoy it Brother put your mind on something like Cloverfield and you'll last an hour, and treat her if a good girl like a prostitute ,and if a bad girl like a princess! Know that it'll end like a 2 pump chump though...
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby Fansy » Mon May 04, 2009 4:39 pm

so i should either

a) listen to the advice of a bunch of old, sad people of whom 98% are either perpetually single or in miserable relationships they hate,

or b) be happy and ignore you silly fruitcakes.

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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby Kurt » Mon May 04, 2009 5:32 pm

Fenrisco wrote:
Kurt wrote:let your penis do the typing


Ah, the "hunt and pecker" method, also known as "keybagging".


brilliant!
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby Chimborazo » Mon May 04, 2009 6:15 pm

Kurt wrote:But women ....get this....actually ENJOY that sort of thing and hope to work on extending the time doing it to at least three minutes.


That includes foreplay, right?
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby marie-angelique » Tue May 05, 2009 8:44 am

Fansy wrote:so i should either

a) listen to the advice of a bunch of old, sad people of whom 98% are either perpetually single or in miserable relationships they hate,

or b) be happy and ignore you silly fruitcakes.

YUP GUYS TUFF DECISION THIS ONE


if you are so happy, why did you bother asking in the first place?
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Re: how do i keep a girl thinking that i like her for her mind

Postby Fansy » Tue May 05, 2009 5:31 pm

marie-angelique wrote:if you are so happy, why did you bother asking in the first place?


i wish, honestly, that i could understand and/or reply to the responses in this thread. but, as exemplified by this type of shit above, all these comments lack even the minimal amount of rigor that would make them relevant to my situation or original question.

E. FUKN G.:
MA: what does my happiness have to do with my askin this question? how are the two at all mutually exclusive in a sane world?
kurt/cold: why can't she be dumb and I be lazy instead of she being smart and me trying hard to fool her? which is more fukn likely?
v: besides being generally wrong, a,b,c, and d all ignore the real possibility that SHE IS DUMB and I AM TOO LAZY TO TRY AT ALL TO FOOL HER BECAUSE SHE IS PRETTY DUMB AND I KNOW ITS PRETTY EASY TO GET AWAY WITH UNLESS I JUST AM INCREDIBLY LAZY AND SAY SHIT LIKE "come over i got 20 minutes lets fuck then you can go back to work".
swine: there may be a men's cosmo for these questions, BUT DO YOU THINK I'D POST THIS SHIT IN THERE OVER RANTS AND OPINIONS AT THE BFC FAGGOT?
elso: wtf does this shit have to do with anything?
kurt#2: i dont want to hear about your erotic male pimply fantasies. why would you assume I or this girl fit the ridiculous profiles you created? I mean srsly before runnin with these silly age-based stereotypes might want to know ages of those involved.

i mean. really. how hard is it for people to consider their responses in light of what they DONT KNOW about shit. you people lack so much conversational rigor its fukn sad.
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